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Oksana Ivanets on Military Journalism, War Trauma, and Witnessing Russian Crimes in Ukraine
Oksana Ivanets is a Ukrainian military journalist and lieutenant colonel who served in both the State Border Guard Service and the Armed Forces of Ukraine. She has been a special correspondent for ArmyInform. She has reported from the frontline and recently de-occupied areas, especially in the Kharkiv region, documenting war crimes, occupation conditions, returning prisoners, and the experiences of soldiers and civilians under attack. Her work combines military communications, field reporting, and witness-based storytelling. In this interview, she reflects on service, trauma, propaganda, frontline ethics, and the moral burden of recording violence while preserving Ukraine’s war testimony for future history.
By Scott Douglas Jacobsenabout 11 hours ago in Families
Separate Bedrooms
The Controversial Choice That Saved Our Relationship THE SECRET NOBODY TALKS ABOUT 🤫 My husband Daniel and I have slept in separate bedrooms for four years, and when people learn this they react with a mixture of concern, judgment, and morbid curiosity that reveals how deeply the cultural assumption that married couples must share a bed is embedded in our collective understanding of what marriage means, because sleeping separately is associated in most people's minds with relationship failure, with the cold war stage of dying marriages where physical distance reflects emotional distance and where the retreat to separate rooms is a prelim to the retreat to separate lives. But our experience has been the opposite of this assumption: separate bedrooms have produced more intimacy, better communication, improved physical affection, and dramatically better individual health than shared sleeping ever provided, and the decision which initially felt like a concession to failure has proven to be one of the most relationship-enhancing choices we have ever made 🏠💕
By The Curious Writerabout 18 hours ago in Families
Marriage
How Losing Everything Revealed What We Actually Had THE MORNING WE LOST IT ALL 📉 The phone call came at 7:43 AM on a Wednesday morning while my husband Robert and I were eating breakfast with our two children who were arguing about whose turn it was to use the iPad, and the normalcy of this scene, the cereal bowls and the sibling bickering and the coffee growing cold while I refereed, made what followed feel like it was happening to someone else in a movie I was watching rather than in my actual kitchen in my actual life, because Robert's business partner called to inform him that their construction company was insolvent, that the bank was calling their loans immediately, that their largest client had filed a lawsuit for breach of contract, and that the personal guarantees Robert had signed on the business loans meant that our family was liable for approximately 1.7 million dollars in debt that the company could not pay, and in the approximately four minutes of that phone call our financial life which had been comfortable and secure and built on fifteen years of hard work and careful planning collapsed into a crater so deep that climbing out seemed not just difficult but genuinely impossible 📞😰
By The Curious Writerabout 18 hours ago in Families
Why Good Intentions Make a Bad Legal Standard
Why Law Reaches for Intent in the First Place Legal systems lean toward intent because it feels humane. Motive appears to reveal character, and character feels like a stable guide for judgment. In emotionally charged domains like parenting and custody, intent offers something comforting: the belief that outcomes can be understood, and even forgiven, by examining what someone meant to do. Courts frequently ask whether a parent acted out of love, fear, confusion, or malice, as though the answer to that question can reliably predict what the child will experience over time.
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast4 days ago in Families
Is It Normal to Feel Emotional After an Abortion?. AI-Generated.
A Quiet Truth Many People Don’t Talk About Abortion is often discussed in terms of physical recovery, timelines, and medical details — but far fewer conversations acknowledge the emotional experience that can follow. For many, the emotional part is the most unexpected.
By Eve Surgical Center12 days ago in Families
The Disappearing Art of Self-Respect
There is a discussion most people avoid because the minute it begins, the room usually splits into two (2) shallow camps. One side insists clothing carries no social meaning and should never be interpreted. The other treats any discussion of self-presentation as moral panic wearing respectable clothes.
By Dr. Mozelle Martin12 days ago in Families
Beloved
Flowers cascade down the aisles of a quiet church, the pews filled with friends and loves ones. At the alter stand the largest of the arrangements, fragrant flowers wafting their perfume, through the chapel, certain to create and evoke scent memories in future recollections of this day. The parishioners file in and will soon file out, with whispers of, “It was a beautiful service,” “The flowers were so lovely,” and “I’m sorry for their loss. His passing was long in coming, but so sudden.”
By Alexandra Grant13 days ago in Families
A Flight With Grief.
I stared up at the sky yesterday. It was blue, empty of clouds, and the sun was shining bright. Far above me was an airplane. I realized how much I miss being on them, how much I miss going somewhere new. I wondered where they were going, or if they were coming home. I could see the plane easily, but I know that if they looked out of their window, they wouldn’t have seen me—just a simple country girl with dreams that stretch far beyond the town she feels stuck in.
By April Kirby.16 days ago in Families
Do I Have To?
Tuesday was a “national” day of celebration, but not all were in celebratory mode. While our nation and other nations were partying and engorging themselves on corned beef, potatoes, cabbage and an over abundance of beer, one person was grieving and going down a rabbit hole of sadness, over the death of a parent.
By Alexandra Grant19 days ago in Families
Mon Trésor (My Treasure)
I will say that not all poor have my integrity. There are plenty of groups of poor children, mostly boys, that will gladly pick your pocket. There's also prostitutes; not courtesans, you understand; that will steal more bills from a man's wallet when he's asleep. They call it necessity while I call it a bad decision, and a bad name.
By Alexandra F21 days ago in Families
